The changing landscape for women in the United States has brought new challenges to family life. With women working similar hours to men, and oftentimes assuming the role of breadwinner, families have needed to figure out ways to handle the chores necessary at home to raising a family. For the new set of Maharats, the challenge has been just as fierce. A clergy member, at the service of his congregation, does not hold to the same hours as most professionals.
While many wives of Rabbis do not accept the responsibilities the role traditionally expected, many Rebbetzins see it as their true calling. Since the vast majority of Maharat husbands are not interested in the duties taken up by a Rebbetzin, these expectations have created a difficult situation.
There are many options that our musmachot can use to alleviate these concerns. Another person could be hired to fulfill these duties, because in the end of the day, should a Rebbetzin not get paid for her hard work? Are Rebbetzins not deserving of gratitude for what they give to the community? If so, there is no reason why the Rebbetzin should have to be married to the Rabbi.
Another option is available, although only in certain states, thankfully, including New York. One of our graduates (she has asked to remain anonymous for now, as she will reveal herself in a Buzzfeed article in due time) has decided to go another route. In a quiet ceremony, she will be married to her life partner, who will also be her Rebbetzin. It is a momentous achievement for Jewish clergy to have a team that can so graciously fulfill any synagogues needs.